Every couple for whom marriage is forever unearths nuggets of wisdom along the way. Inamp160Love for a Lifetime Daily Wisdom and Wit for a Long and Happy Marriageamp160columnist Mary Hance shares a wealth of golden tips collected far and wide from young couples just setting out to those whose wedding vows still echo through half a century and more. Here are a fewThrow the wordamp160fairamp160out the window. In one year of a marriage one person may need 99 percent of the love effort or focus of the other another yearamp160it may be just the opposite.amp8220What my father always told me when I was planning my wedding amp8216You have to want to have a marriage not just a wedding. Remember theamp160difference. amp8221amp8220Learn fast that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fenceamp8221amp8220After several years of marriage there is no way Iamp8217m training anotheramp160husband so I will just keep the one I haveamp8221